THE LOCKED DOOR –THE CHAMELEON

Today we are going to have a look at some of the manifestations of a locked up heart due to past disappointments, rejections, hurts, tragedies. 

Everybody can identify the reclusive person who is obviously shutting the world out; but there are more subtle ones that at first glance we might overlook.

The Chameleon

The first group I have come across is what I would call the “chameleons”.  I don’t mean it in a derogative way, but as a description of someone who adapts to their environment for survival.

If you are a Chameleon, you are good at survival. You make yourself fit into different groups; not willing to stir up any contentions, you outwardly agree with almost everything.  This can be good if not for the intense loneliness you feel when you are by yourself.

You have a large social network, and look happy at first glance; but deep down you feel insecure that if people know who you really are they won’t stay.  At times you are so well blended with the various groups you associate with that you lose track of who you really are.  In the search of significance in various different situations you have in reality lost your sense of significance of being yourself.

Lacking Peace?

This leads you to an inability to feel AT PEACE with yourself, always looking for something outward to settle that sense of insecurity, filling your life with things and people to ease the loneliness.

You look for things that would help you be more acceptable and loveable.  You could be an early adaptor to new teachings, even in Christianity.  You embrace things quickly but find it hard to translate this into behavioural transformation; in frustration you then look for yet another new thing to embrace.

It’s a Lie!

The heart of the matter is you cannot trust that you are loveable as you are and hence worthy of deep meaningful connections.  While yearning for intimacy you are too afraid to let people come close in case they discover this “truth” that you have always believed about yourself. 

My friend, this, in God’s economy, has been a lie!!!  A lie which was sowed through your early disappointments, rejections, unhealed wounds.  A lie which further isolate you and separate you from the Love that you really deserve.

The way through this is to begin to recognise the lie, and to discover where this has taken root in your life.  Then to discover that there is Someone perfect, far above what we can imagined or expected: Someone who knows that you cannot trust any mere mortals to treat you well and love you warts and all, so He offered Himself.

A Love That Took Away Your Imperfections!

On the Cross, Jesus took away ALL our Imperfections, ALL our pain, All our injuries – He demonstrated His love for you way long before you knew of His existence.  He did this so you can live again!  This is the LOVE that you have been looking for.  So by allowing this PERFECT Man to come into your heart, you will find the keys that would release you into self-acceptance, and into safety. 

It is in this place of safety that we are no longer prisoners of fear and insecurity.  We can choose to allow people to come into our lives in meaningful ways, so that together, we can impact the world in meaningful ways.

This  LOVE is the desire of your heart, and it is the answer to your loneliness.

I encourage you to be brave, to take the courage to explore the depth of God’s Love through our journey in the next few posts.

Diep-Thanh